When you’re the primary family caregiver for your elderly loved one, you’re deeply invested in her health and her future. But when you’re uncertain about that future, you might feel as if you’re in a boat without a rudder.
You May Have to Accept Uncertainty.
There are a lot of different situations in life in which you have to accept that you don’t know exactly what’s going to happen next. That can be the case with your loved one’s health and future, too. Worrying won’t actually resolve anything at all. If nothing else, you may need to practice accepting that you can’t know what will happen next.
Become as Informed as Possible.
While you can’t always have a crystal ball gaze into the future for you, you can become as informed as possible. This can allow you to predict possible outcomes, even if it doesn’t give you an exact answer. Talk to your loved one’s medical team and do your own research. You might also consider joining a support group to meet other caregivers who are in the same situation you’re in. Sharing information can help you to reduce your own uncertainty.
Learn to Manage Your Stress.
When your stress levels are out of control, that makes you as a caregiver more uncertain about what’s going on now and what will happen in the future. Sit down and map out a self-care plan that allows you to lower your own stress levels and keep yourself operating at an optimal level. The sooner you do this, the sooner you’ll be able to bring some of those feelings back under control.
Get Help Managing Your Feelings of Uncertainty.
If you’re still having difficulty managing your feelings of anxiety and uncertainty, get some extra help. Talking to a therapist, counselor, or a clergy member can all be extremely helpful in reorienting your perspective in terms of feeling uncertain about your loved one’s future. Using all of the tools at your disposal helps you to manage your situation from every possible angle.
These feelings won’t go away overnight, unfortunately. Keep up with your self-care plan so that you can keep making steady progress toward your goals.